Hey, stranger. How is the quarantine life going? Any new creative hobbies discovered, brilliant ideas for that home business you always wanted or, on the contrary, feeling ‘all zoomed out’?
Well, if you are indeed feeling all zoomed out, not to worry, you are not alone. It won’t come as a surprise to you that right now seems to be the perfect time for online dating or catching up with your distant relatives or friends but wait, is it fatigue you are experiencing while trying to stay connected with those so dear to you?
Whether you have been working from home or trying to hermit under current circumstances, we truly are in this together. Even if we are isolated. Constantly staying in contact (even with the ones you love) can be quite draining and unfulfilling when there seems to be not enough air to breathe for ourselves. So what can we do about it? How do we make sure we stay connected while maintaining proper boundaries?
1. First thing you may wish to consider are your ‘core hours’: are you a parent? Do you work from home? Are you a full-time student? You may want to make sure those closest to you know what your ‘operating’ hours are, when is it that you have lunch or choose to go for a walk so planning some quality time does not feel overwhelming.
2. It is easy to get frustrated and unload negativity on those you love since they are always there for you but what if you could channel those emotions in a productive or creative way? Once feeling not-the-most-positive emotions, try journaling, exercising, going for a walk or taking a course online. Also, there are online counseling services available for those who may require some extra care.
3. Last but not least, ask yourself: ‘Can this be an email/text?’ – do we really need to video chat about everything when we can simply verbalize it all under 500 words? Treat others’ time the way you would want them to respect yours.
Hopefully, you find this helpful and remember that this too shall pass. We are eventually going to reunite and be able to meet with those we care about in person so do not overwhelm yourself. For now, stay positive and appreciate the beauty and peace around you.
Written in collaboration with Myroslava Balakhtar